Ask Raider Sam

December 2019

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Dear Raider Sam, 

I have this weird relationship with my boyfriend and bestfriend. My best friend and I both date the same guy and share him as “our boyfriend.” He’ll take us both on dates or, sometimes, he’ll do individual dates with us to make us feel special, but lately he’s been seeing her more than me. It doesn’t make sense because I’m the better half. I’m afraid if I tell him how I feel, she’ll get upset and they’ll both leave. Advice Please?

Sincerely, 

Struggling Senior

 

Dear Struggling Senior,

I think you should tell them how you feel. There’s nothing wrong with wanting more attention and if that’s a problem for them then maybe that isn’t the relationship you belong in. Try something more monogamous, that way you could feel special all the time. If you truly believe that you’re the better half, then I say go find someone who believes that as well. You should never settle for less than you believe you deserve.

Sincerely,
Raider Sam

 

Dear Raider Sam, 

I have this interesting relationship where I have two girlfriends.  They’re both great, but recently I’ve been leaning more towards one of them. This has become a problem because my other girlfriend is getting jealous. I really don’t want to break up with her because I really like her a lot. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Sharing Sophomore

 

Dear Sharing Sophomore,

You need to be honest with both of them and yourself. If you truly are leaning towards one more than the other you need to let them know. There’s no use in keeping both around when your heart belongs to one. This is a big decision to make but you must choose to end on good terms. If not all you’ll be left with is tension and heartbreak.

Sincerely, 

Raider Sam

 

Dear Raider Sam,
I’m currently stressing over what I want to major in. I have many things in mind but my family is pressuring me to already choose and its barely the middle of the school year. I don’t know what to do because I love criminal justice but also nursing. Right now I’m aiming for nurse practitioner but I don’t know if that’s the career path I want to choose. How can I figure out what I want to be?

Sincerely,
Confused Junior

 

Dear Confused Junior, 

School is all about taking the time and the opportunities to figure out what it is you want to do with your life. Try to not feel so pressured. It is your future you’re deciding, make sure you make the right decision for you. As for ways to figure it out, try contacting people with similar careers or search the web. Getting an idea of the type of work they do can greatly influence your decision.

Sincerely,

Raider Sam