Friend Ready to Marry at 18

Ask Raider Sam

 

Dear Raider Sam,

My friend is 18 and is planning on getting married June 18. No matter how many times I tell him it’s a bad idea and it may ruin his life, he does not listen to me. I am scared his marriage would create a downward spiral for him. What should I do next time that may get him to rethink his marriage? — Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you want to help your friend and you care very much about his well-being. But sometimes you have to let people make their own mistakes. If it will in fact “ruin his life” as you say, he will learn from that mistake. Unfortunately, people are stubborn and will not take anyone’s advice. Simply let things run their course.

Dear Raider Sam,

Am I crazy? Weird things have been happening to me. Every time I pass under a light it flickers. I see black cats everywhere and I have the same dream every night of aliens abducting me. Is this all just a coincidence or should I watch out for booger heads? — Crazy

Dear Crazy

I think that you need to relax. Take a deep breath, and don’t be so paranoid! No one is going to abduct you, and the black cats are probably just stray cats. Don’t worry about it. And if the lights flicker, just go around them. Simple. Best of luck. 

Dear Raider Sam,

Prom is right around the corner, basically one month away, and I still haven’t gone to look at any dresses or have any clue what I want. But my problem is, I don’t know if I should ask my boyfriend since I’m still in school, or if he should ask me even though he’s in college. Many people are telling me I should ask him, but I also want to get asked because I think it’s cute. Please help me! — Confused Girlfriend

Dear Confused Girlfriend, 

I can see why you are torn on what to do, since he’s still in college. What I would do is hint at the idea of him asking you, comment on how cute you think it is when guys go out their way to ask girls to prom. If he knows you the way he should, he’ll know what you want. But do it fast, time is running out!